"Loss and vulnerability seem to follow from our being socially constituted beings, attached to others, at risk of losing those attachments, exposed to others, at risk of violence by virtue of that exposure." -judith bulter
Seeking a connection with other people is a dangerous thing. Wonderful at the onset, but ultimately lead to strife and the omniscient presence of the unpredictable. I sound so cynical. It's just the seedy underbelly of life. Deal. Other aspects of humans connecting to one another is still quite lovely and refreshing--yet there is always something lurking around the corner. People change, circumstances develop, and life goes on. The only problem I feel with this is the disconnect between why things happen and how they happen. For example: perhaps a friend comes into a season in your life when you need them. But how they go out of your life--perhaps like the sharp edge of a knife--that is the part I don't understand. Must ties be severed so harshly, when a cordial goodbye would suffice?
3 comments:
Its not always so harsh is it? Anyway, glad I stumbled upon your blog :)
true. I guess just recent circumstances.
A "cordial goodbye" is a bit oxymoronic don't you think?
You don't seek connections thinking that relationships will fail (at least I hope you don't). If you do, then why seek connections in the first place? I hope you're not encouraging your readers to have lowered expectations about people you meet because that would be a shame.
And since you begin your blog with a quote, I'll end my comment with one of my own...
"And so, when a person meets the half that is his very own then something wonderful happens: the two are struck from their senses by love, by a sense of belonging to one another, and by desire, and they don't want to be separated from one another, not even for a moment." -from Plato's Symposium
Call it idealistic, but I think it would be useful to have a different lens to look through if you're feeling cynical.
It was a pleasure meeting you, Michelle. I hope seeking a connection with you won't be so dangerous either.
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